The
concept of insight was fairly foreign to me a couple years ago. It was not something I thought of at all. I am not sure if I even really knew what it
meant or if I would have even recognized it when I saw it. That changed for me significantly about a
year or so ago. Without going into too
much detail right now, in a nutshell, I realized I had a desire to take my life
in a different direction professionally, however I had no idea where it was I
wanted to go, and to some degree I still don’t.
Through a sometimes difficult and not even close to finished look at my
life, I discovered the concept of insight and how important it can be. Really,
what is insight? Looking it up in a
dictionary it says
that insightis the ability to perceive clearly or deeply; a penetrating and often sudden understanding, as of a complex situation or problem; the capacity for understanding one's own or another's mental processes; the immediate understanding of the significance of an event or action. All good stuff….
Here is the problem and my confession; I
think I have become addicted to insight.
I can’t read enough about it, talk about it enough or think about
enough. I am like a junkie looking for his next self help hit. Is it a desperate grasp for
answers in a cruel unforgiving world, or is it my personal journey to the land
of happiness and endless joy? I can’t tell at this point. I have come to realize that I like the
self-discovery process and I have really enjoyed the books I have read and the
conversations I have had with close friends and family. Insight for me has been a gift that has
helped me to communicate better, see things from a different perspective and
solidified my desire to take risks. I
have to be careful that I have not simply replaced my obsession with new cars
for self-help and still not really getting anywhere close to where I want to
be. This leads to the next question; can
you have too much insight in your life?
I think the answer is no. There
is always room for understanding and perspective. It is how we choose to use it that is
important. What you gain from the
insight should be used as a catalyst to create possibilities for yourself and
take you in the direction of fulfilling dreams and goals you have for
yourself. For me, I am not sure where it
will lead me, but I know not taking action behind the insight is a step
backwards that I am not willing to take.
How
we get insight is another conversation to have, and it is different for
everyone. It is not always on the couch
of a therapist’s office or from a conversation with a close friend. It can come at anytime if you choose to look
at things from a different perspective and open yourself up to the possibly of
a different future and deeper relationships.
Believe me if I could bottle it up and sell it, I would. For you Oprah watchers, it’s the ah ha
moments in our lives, and yes I watch Oprah on occassion. For me, insight
has arrived in the traditional sense of in a therapist’s office, and it has
arrived in the strangest place, like on a jog, or line at the grocery store. It is a very strange experience checking out
at the grocery store and you look up at the clerk and saying, “I totally get it
now”, and he says “get what”, and you say, “what I am doing wrong in my life”. People will look at you very strangely, but
what matters is that it arrives. So, yes
I am addicted to insight, but I am ok with that, and I want to use it to create
amazing possibilities, and so can you.
Hi Kevin,
ReplyDeleteI'm reading your posts with delight and just want you to know YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Being addicted to insight actually has a foundation in neuroscience / brain wiring. It's a biologically based personality trait first written about by researcher Chris Fields in 2010.
I started a blog on the topic in 2011. Since then, I discovered that most of my highly gifted coaching clients have this trait. People like us often switch careers and reinvent ourselves multiple times in our journey.
You might also be interested in learning about Dabrowski's theory of "positive integration" and the levels of personal growth he describes. For me, it was like finally finding an explanation for my insatiable appetite for learning and evolving.
I hope you enjoy learning more about this topic as much as I have...it's helped me find a peace I didn't know was possible.
All the best to you, Ariane