It seems like everywhere I look online lately someone has a
new “list” to motivate me to do something.
“Top ten ways to get more done”, “5 things successful people don’t do”,
“10 habits for a better marriage”, “3 things you must do now to have the career
you deserve”. Honestly, it’s starting to
drive me a little nuts. Not only do I
not click on them anymore, it is becoming frustrating to me. You don’t need a list of
recommendations. There is nothing in
most of those lists that most of us don’t know about the topic. Frankly, if you look at some of those lists
and have genuinely never thought that showing up on time to work will help you,
or paying attention to what your spouse is saying will improve your
relationship, I’m scared for all of us.
Psychology Today online lately seems to be entirely made up of articles
of these lists, and it’s a little rude.
There saying we do not have the ability anymore to sit for a few minutes
and read an interesting article, life has become about bullet points.
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Sunday, January 18, 2015
Wednesday, September 17, 2014
Primary Questions
We all ask ourselves questions. The type of questions you ask yourself on a
consistent basis can be empowering or they can be destructive. Our mind is very interesting and complex. It has the ability to think, contemplate,
analyze, and the ability to talk to ourselves.
I am not talking about voices in your head that are not really
there. I am talking about the internal
dialogue we all have with ourselves. It
is this dialogue, more specifically the questions you ask your self during this
dialogue that is the key to the thoughts and opinions we have about ourselves,
and often what core beliefs we develop that shape our behavior. Unfortunately, our default programming focuses
on negative dialogue. It takes a lot of
reprogramming in our operating system to fix this.
Saturday, August 16, 2014
Tough conversations about suicide in police work
My latest article on behind the badge OC talking about how police departments need to start addressing the suicides of officers in their ranks. It is a topic that is not talked about and it needs to be.
http://behindthebadgeoc.com/news/von-luft-police-need-address-causes-suicide-ranks/
http://behindthebadgeoc.com/news/von-luft-police-need-address-causes-suicide-ranks/
Thursday, August 7, 2014
Daily Stress Of Police Work
Check out my latest article I wrote for Behind the Badge talking about the daily stress of police work and the hidden health costs.
http://behindthebadgeoc.com/opinion/von-luft-daily-stress-policing-takes-toll/
Monday, July 28, 2014
Can a minimalist have a jacuzzi?
Like mindfulness, minimalism gets a bad wrap sometimes. Both are often misunderstood, misquoted and
often get people from western culture thinking that you have to sit
cross-legged humming with incense burning to practice it. Also like mindfulness, minimalism is catching
fire in our western culture, and mindfulness concepts and practices are making
a huge difference with people suffering from depression, anxiety and PTSD. They are being integrated more and more into
traditional Western medicine practices, this is a good thing.
Wednesday, July 16, 2014
Get tactical with your awareness
While developing a workshop about coping with stress in our
lives I wanted to use concepts found in many different areas of psychology including
mindfulness, psychological flexibility, acceptance/commitment therapy and
others. I started to pull from different
areas and developed a definition that I now use coming from my law enforcement
background, and called it “Tactical Awareness”.
Very often the process of change for a person starts with
just awareness. The old adage “stop and
smell the roses” is truer today than we all realize.
Thursday, July 10, 2014
What do happy people do different?
Do “happy” people do things differently? Did they attend
some secret meeting where they were told the secrets to happiness? There are thousands of books, websites, and
blogs dedicated to the topic of being happy.
However, the best way that I have found to learn something new is to
model those that are already doing it well.
Working with clients, talking with colleagues and friends, and also
reading a lot of those books, blogs and websites, I wanted to see if I could
come up with an answer to the question, do happy people do things differently. Looking
at people that report being consistently happy on psychological surveys, it
turns out there are things we can identify they do on a consistent basis that
points to then being “happy”. Putting
all the research and information together, here are the tops things we can
identify that “happy” people do on a consistent basis:
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